My husband just wrote a really good tip and I want to pass it on to y’all. Be aware that he is speaking to a male audience (so you will have to change the gender references to personalize it) and he tends to be a bit hard hitting (watch your fingers and toes). Please do also check out the blog mentioned in the tip. Corey’s blog is a very nice marriage resource.
Would you want to be married to you?
I found this question in a post on Simple Marriage (Corey’s blog is my current painful introspective obsession).
So, would you want to be married to you? How would you feel about being on the receiving end of your peculiarities, your selfishness, your obsessions, your limitations, and the things you won’t let go of even though you know you should? Would you feel blessed or cheated if you received from your bride what she receives from you? Do you offer enough love, concern, support, understanding and space? Are you too critical, too distant, or too avoidant? Do you make your needs, desire and wants far bigger than you see her needs, desire and wants?
If you don’t like what you see when you answer these questions honestly, it’s time to pick one thing and start working on it; then another thing and another.
If you like what you see when you answer these questions, there is a very good chance you are not being completely honest.
Be generous! Lori <><