My husband shared this tip a few days ago and I thought the concept of it was so good that I want to pass it on to y’all.
From The Generous Husband:
We all process information at different speeds, and we process different information at different speeds. Trying to discuss something that one of you has not fully processed is useless at best, and potentially disastrous. So, make “I need a bit more time to process that” a safe and valid thing to say in your marriage – just don’t use it as an excuse to avoid something you don’t want to talk about!
This particular tip is about how different people process information, but the concepts behind this tip can work for any number of differences between you and your husband. I like the idea that different is OK It’s a given that the two of you will handle things differently from time to time. There is nothing wrong with that. It is just a resulting condition of being two different people. I also like that you can create safe sentences that lets your spouse know that you need time to deal with a difference. It’s a good way to communicate and it helps your spouse know that your not avoiding him, but that you just need time to work through your thoughts or feelings.
Be generous! Lori <><