Stop, Look and Listen

February 23, 2010

in the generous life

I’ve gotten into a very bad habit lately.  My husband will walk into the room and talk to me and I don’t stop what I’m doing to listen.  What that means practically is that I don’t really hear what he is talking about (and that leads to all kinds of misunderstandings) and I’m not really showing him respect.  He is far more important that anything I’m doing (he’s polite and waits to get my attention and he would understand if I was embroiled in any real kind of emergency).

So learn from my bad.  Next time your husband speaks to you, stop what you are doing, look up and really give him the attention he deserves.

The first duty of love is to listen.  Paul Tillich

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Abidjanaise February 23, 2010 at 1:38 am

This is so timely for me. I often try to “multi-task” while David wants to tell me something, and I need to remember to focus on him. With all the kids running around, he’s not asking for much of my time, but I need to show him that I prioritise him highly in this way.

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sandiep01 February 23, 2010 at 5:45 am

I agree, how timely! I realize that I’m guilty of falling into the same habit lately! How disrespected this probably makes my Honey feel! YIKES! Thanks Lori!

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bubblegumbabe08 February 23, 2010 at 6:13 am

I recently got upset with my husband for responding with “uh huh”, “yeah”, or “okay” to everything I said. I felt like he wasn’t really listening, he was just absentmindly responding. He said, “No, I agree with you and I don’t have anything to add. You covered everything! (imagine! haha) Why do you think I am not listening?” Then I realized I ASSUMED that was the case because when HE is talking and I say those things, I am not listening to HIM. Guilty!

I guess I learned this habit from “absentmindedly agreeing” to everything our 2 year old babbles about under my feet all day long. Thanks for reminding me to stop and really listen. Everyone wants and deserves to be heard! Even my little man. =) I sure did get upset when I thought I wasn’t being heard!

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