I have a friend who will pick at me sometimes. She’s got a poor sense of self worth and picking at others makes her feel better (and generally makes it hard for her to keep friends). At first I was tempted to back away. I so don’t enjoy being picked on, but God just nudged me to stay – 1) for her, she needs friends and 2) because I need to deal with my own stuff. I have wounds that she routinely tweaks. It’s painful, but it’s a way of being able to see where I am still oversensitive, where I haven’t learned kindness, or where I just need to grow up.
Now for the marriage thing … Realize that there will be times when your husband is thoughtless, just not aware, or has wounds he is acting out over. Sometimes you do need to set healthy boundaries, but sometimes it’s just a good thing to let God teach you a thing or two about yourself, to get some healing, to learn a few kindness skills, or just to grow up a bit.
Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. Author Unknown
Be generous! Lori <><