Listen Well

January 29, 2010

in the generous life

The other day I was watching a couple talk (from a distance).  They were constantly interrupting each other. Neither of them felt heard and as a result neither was willing to listen. It was a very sad cycle.

The moral of this story is that, in difficult situations, someone has to start listening and because I email with y’all and I have your ear, I’m asking y’all to be the first to listen. I know it is not easy when you feel unheard or misunderstood, but if you can listen, you may be able to start a new and better trend.  When your husband feels heard, he will be more likely to listen and then you have the beginning of communication.

If you usually communicate well, it never hurts to practice the skill of listening, perhaps ask a few questions. Listening deeply says you care about him and you want to hear his heart.

To listen well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well.  John Marshall

Be generous!  Lori <><

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char8198 January 29, 2010 at 1:37 pm

When my Hubby and I are having an important conversation and it is important that we heard each other, we repeat back what we heard our spouse say. It helps us catch things that came across wrong or misinformation. It also helps summarize for both of us what was just said so the other can know how to respond. It has been very helpful!

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