Archive for September, 2009

Make a Date

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009

I was shopping the other day and noticed all the calendars out for the coming year.  Try finding a calendar that would be of interest to your husband and mark the calendar with holidays and days that are special to your family (a few silly holidays are fun as well, such as "kiss day").  It's a good "just because" gift or save it for the upcoming holidays.

Giving presents is a talent; to know what a person wants, to know when and how to get it, to give it lovingly and well. Pamela Glenconner

Be generous!  Lori <><


Touch Junkie

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

My husband and I tease each other saying that we've made each other "touch junkies."  We really have developed the habit of touching frequently and it does get rather addictive.  I encourage y'all to touch your husband often.  Pat his arm as you walk by, hold hands when you watch TV, and generally look for opportunities to snuggle up.

... the blessing has five key elements.  These five elements, blending together, can cause personal acceptance to blossom and grow in our homes today ... [one of these elements is] meaningful touch ... Gary Smalley and John Trent (from their book The Gift of the Blessing)

Be generous!  Lori <><

Pretty You

Monday, September 28th, 2009

I have this friend who always looks great (and she's nice too!  Sheesh!).  Anyhow, I realized one day that she must just "make time and energy" for it.  We all have our priorities and the same 24 hours to use (and, honestly, it just peeves me when appearance becomes a god), but there is something about taking care of yourself and looking good that is healthy. (Thank you, Mindi!)  :-)

That said, let's take some time to consider self care and dressing in flattering ways.  Go through your makeup and wardrobe and get rid of the ugly stuff (y'all know what I'm talking about) and things you never use or wear (it's always nice to slim down possessions).  When you make new purchases, go for the flattering styles and colors.  If you don't know what looks good on you, ask a friend to shop with you.  Do some research with self help books or websites (if someone knows of a good site, please leave a comment with this tip and share).  Consider different clothing styles, try a new lotion, change your hair color, or cut back on (or increase) the amount of jewelry you wear.

The worse that can happen is you'll find out you don't like something and you have to try again.  The best is that you find a style that you really like and you feel pretty. (Husband's have been known to be blessed by just the attempt.)

The difference between try and triumph is a little umph. Author Unknown

Be generous!  Lori <><

Cyber Prayer Time

Sunday, September 27th, 2009

Time for a cyber prayer meeting!  Let's pray for each other as we learn to be generous wives.  Please also pray specifically for those gals who have been separated and are now trying to reestablish their marriages.

God tells us to burden him with whatever burdens us. Author Unknown

Be generous!  Lori <><

Little Games

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

I can't over emphasize the importance of little times of fun and silliness.  The tiniest, simplest and often least expensive things can make for moments of real intimacy.  Here's a tip from a generous wife that gives you a glimpse into what I mean. (thanks, Jennifer!)

This week our date night was a game night, and I started the day off by inviting him to play hangman with me on our bathroom mirror.  I used a dry erase maker to leave blank spots that would become a love message.  We had a blast going back and forth throughout the day - I'd walk by and see he had guessed a new letter and I would fill in the blank or continue to draw my "hangman."  (My stick figure drawing became something less lethal and way more fun.)  By the end of the night, he had guessed his message and we got to go do what the stick couple on the mirror was doing.  The next morning, he had initiated a new game.  Fun!

(If you want to share your date night ideas, please comment here.  You do have to register on the blog to post a comment.)

Be generous!  Lori <><

Invest In Your Marriage

Friday, September 25th, 2009

I'm going to share another hubby tip. What can I say, he's good. This concept is so important. Our culture teaches us to let things slide and look for the easy route. A good marriage can take real work, but it's one of the best investments you'll every make.

I had cause recently to go mucking about in my spam folder - all the stuff I never see because software dumps it for me.  As I ran through it looking for one e-mail, I found an interesting common thread in much of what was there  ...  I saw get a degree without any studying, lose weight without exercise or diet, and even "make money in sleep". In other words, a lot of spam is offering to give us something for nothing - or at least something without doing any real work for it.

If this is a hallmark of our culture, then do we look for the same thing in our marriages? Do we want the easy fix, the no work solution, or maybe the "throw money at it to fix it" method? The reality is a good marriage takes work, and a great marriage takes a lot of work. And not just work, but ongoing work - without maintenance you lose ground, and growth always takes additional effort.

I can assure you that the rewards of the effort can be great. The joy of a good marriage is deep and profound. Don't let the something for nothing attitude that is so common today rob you of what you could have.

Thanks, Paul,
Lori <><

Forgiven, forgiven, forgiven …

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

My husband had a very nice tip last night that I want to pass on to y'all.  Here it is with gender changes.

It seems to me that forgiveness sometimes takes a number of times to get all the way down inside.  I'm not talking about the choice we make to forgive, but the feelings that so often don't immediately follow that choice.  Sometimes it seems like forgiving the same thing several times is needed, with each time moving me farther down the road to feeling what I think I should feel - or maybe more accurately not feeling what I know I should no longer feel.  It just seems, sometimes, that it takes several times to dig down through the various layers and deal with all of the hurt, resentment, and so on.

The other side of this is feeling forgiven.  I might be fully forgiven, really, totally, and yet not feel I am, or should be.  This is probably because I have not forgiven myself for what I did; but whatever the reason, there [are] things I have asked my husband to forgive me for that I had to ask a number of times before I felt it was really dead and buried.

If any of this seems valid in your marriage, then I suggest you and your husband discuss it and decide if it's okay to ask more than once for forgiveness, or offer forgiveness more than once.

Be generous!  Lori <><

Color Me Pink

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

List the colors in your underwear drawer and ask your husband to pick a color.  Wear that for the day (be sure to let him see his selection).

The curves of your hips are like jewels, the work of the hands of an artist. Song of Songs 7:1  NAS

Be generous!  Lori <><

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