Shhhh!

August 11, 2009

in the generous life

Allow your husband to finish his own sentences.  It’s easy to pick up the “helpful” habit of filling in words, especially when you know him so well, but given that he is a growing, changing individual, let him have the room to finish expressing his own thoughts.  He might surprise you.  :)

Silence at the proper season is wisdom … Plutarch

Be generous!  Lori <><

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

sscro August 11, 2009 at 7:20 am

Answering before listening is both stupid and rude. Proverbs 18:13 from the Message. I struggle with this, with my husband and interrupting others. This translation was the one I need to memorize and think about.

Reply

Jennifer August 19, 2009 at 7:31 am

My husband and I are backwards of the stereotype on this. It takes me awhile to put my thoughts into words so he likes to speed things up by filling in the blanks, haha. My sweetie notices that he does this and has apologized on various occasions for finishing my sentences and takes the time to ask me how it makes me feel when he does this.

For those of you with husbands that are like me, I think this is important! A lot of the time I actually find my husband’s quickness with words helpful as it does move the conversation along when I have trouble finding the right way to say something, but I also need him to maintain an awareness that at anytime he may misunderstand where my thought is going and his completion of the thought could be wrong. And there is nothing wrong with this as long as I have the opportunity to say, “No, that wasn’t what I was thinking… what I meant was…” It becomes a very interesting style of conversation that I rather enjoy =)

Reply

Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge

Previous post:

Next post: