Disagree Agreeably

August 4, 2009

in the generous life

Disagreeing with your spouse can be tough at times, but you can take a lot of heat out of the disagreement by speaking in respectful words with a respectful tone (no eye rolling).  Sometimes it helps to gently remind yourself that it’s OK for two people to have different opinions and still respect and love each other.

The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands. Author Unknown

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Jennifer August 19, 2009 at 7:08 am

I really like this quote:
“The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands.”

My husband and I said before we were married (although that isn’t saying much since we’ve only been married 3 weeks!) that we thought physical touching would be important in our marriage in the midst of conflict. We said that when we get upset with each other we need to be sure to hug or hold hands despite our feelings to remind ourselves and each other of our love for one another – and I believe from the little biopsychology I know that physical touch can actually physically/chemically reduce negative feelings. You can’t be furious with someone you are hugging, ha – at least it is very difficult =)

I’ve also found personally that feeling like I don’t want to touch or be touched is a good indication that there is an issue that needs to be discussed and addressed and that it is not something that I can simply overlook or move past on my own.

Thank you so much for this blog – I love the concept and all of your posts are so encouraging and helpful. The advice is especially welcome as I am just learning what it means to be a wife! =D

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