Boy, howdy, learning to like sex has been an adventure for me (not always the good and fun kind). I was sexually abused as a kid, acquaintance raped as an adolescent, first marriage was difficult (a euphemism for unbelievably hurtful) and finally landed in a good and safe relationship with my sweetie. A lot of unlearning and learning later, sex is good and something to look forward to.
All the painful memories were certainly a problem where sexuality was concerned, but what I have found to be the most serious of obstacles were my own “permissions.” We all have sets of beliefs (mostly formed when we were but wee ones) and those beliefs ride shot gun on what we allow ourselves to do and not do, enjoy, not enjoy, etc. I had to watch my own reactions to life and sexuality and then take them apart and challenge each one of them. (Oh, and forgiveness helps a lot ~ others and self.)
God is very pro-sex in marriage. Give yourself permission to explore and enjoy sex with your husband. If you find yourself holding back, ask yourself why and let God help you sort things out.
Drink and imbibe deeply, O lovers. Song of Songs 5:1b NAS
Be generous! Lori <><