I had this idea … why not play a game of “switch.” You and your husband each pick a bedroom activity (it can be as something as simple as kissing, or perhaps a position for sex you particularly like). Start with your husband’s activity and at some point you say “switch,” at which point you both stop and start with your activity and he gets to call “switch” in a while. Given the right two activities you can drive each other wild by teasing each other back and forth. Major points for the person who can stay with the game the longest.
Sometimes the best gain is to lose. George Herbert