Write down five things you would like to do during your lifetime. Ask your husband to do the same and then share with each other. What can you do to help each other make those dreams come true?
A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams. Author Unknown
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Does your husband have a drop off spot (place to drop keys, wallet, phone, etc.) that works for him? If not (or the current spot is not working well for him), talk to him and see if you can find a workable solution.
Kindness is the oil that takes the friction out of life. Author Unknown
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The other day I found myself using a bit of negative humor that did not reflect well on my husband. Y'all, learn from my mistake. Keep an eye on your humor and let it be uplifting to your husband rather than something that could potentially discourage him or hurt his feelings.
Good humor is one of the preservatives of our peace and tranquility. Thomas Jefferson.
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Do something for your husband first. Hand him dessert first. Tell him the good news first. Let him take a shower first. Let him know that you value him and that he is special to you.
A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference. Winnie the Pooh
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Declare "Kiss Day" and take every opportunity to kiss your husband. Kiss him when you wake up, when you walk by him, when either of you leave for work, when he steps out of the shower ... (you get the idea)
His lips are lilies, dripping with liquid myrrh. Song of Songs 5:13b NAS
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Scripture quotations taken from the New American Standard Bible®,
Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995
by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. (www.Lockman.org)
Take 5-15 minutes a night to read to each other and then discuss what you've read. If you are having a hard time figuring out how to discuss spiritual issues, then reading and discussing a book is a good way to start. You could even take turns choosing what to read. (Be sure to not use your choice to nag or blame. Pick something uplifting, encouraging or personally challenging.)
Books can be dangerous. The best ones should be labeled "This could change your life." Helen Exley
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Boy, howdy, learning to like sex has been an adventure for me (not always the good and fun kind). I was sexually abused as a kid, acquaintance raped as an adolescent, first marriage was difficult (a euphemism for unbelievably hurtful) and finally landed in a good and safe relationship with my sweetie. A lot of unlearning and learning later, sex is good and something to look forward to.
All the painful memories were certainly a problem where sexuality was concerned, but what I have found to be the most serious of obstacles were my own "permissions." We all have sets of beliefs (mostly formed when we were but wee ones) and those beliefs ride shot gun on what we allow ourselves to do and not do, enjoy, not enjoy, etc. I had to watch my own reactions to life and sexuality and then take them apart and challenge each one of them. (Oh, and forgiveness helps a lot ~ others and self.)
God is very pro-sex in marriage. Give yourself permission to explore and enjoy sex with your husband. If you find yourself holding back, ask yourself why and let God help you sort things out.
Drink and imbibe deeply, O lovers. Song of Songs 5:1b NAS
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One thing my husband and I try to do, is find a little time for play around the time that we work. If we have to travel somewhere for work, we try to arrive a day or so early and take a mini-vacation. When we shop or run errands, we'll stop for a quick lunch or dinner out.
I encourage y'all to do likewise. If you spend the day working on taxes, tuck the kiddos in bed early and enjoy a late dinner for two. If you work in the garden all day, throw a quilt in the shade and share a meal or a game of cards. Make time to nurture your relationship in and around the busyness of work.
Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars. Henry Van Dyke
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