Come Find Me

October 31, 2014

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

Play an old-fashioned game of hide and seek with a new twist.

 

Nonchalantly walk up to your husband and hand him your undies. Let him know that you want to play hide and seek. Tell him to cover his eyes and count to 25 slowly (on his honor) and then tuck yourself into a really good hiding place (scout out your house earlier in the day for a good spot). Have a delightful time of lovemaking when he finds you.

… I looked for the one my heart loves …  Song of Songs 3:1   NIV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you become sexually playful with your man.

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More folks who have taken on the CMBA challenge ~ marriage wisdom from family, the Bible, friends, books and blogs.

The Generous Husband: Words and Wisdom: Blogs and Books
The Romantic Vineyard: What Did You Expect?
Heart of her thoughts: WOW! Words of Wisdom; From friends
The Forgiven Wife: A Change of Heart (thank you, Chris, for your kind words)
Directed Path Ministries: Five Steps To Enhance Your Married Sex Life

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Happy Wives Club: 10 Easy Ways to Increase Your Marriage IQ You can increase your knowledge about your spouse and make your marriage even better.

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Now and then I hear someone explain why they won’t do something by excusing it. “It doesn’t feel natural.” or “It’s not a natural fit. It must not be something I can do.”

Poppycock. Balderdash. Nope.

Almost everything we do starts out awkward or shaky. Do you remember learning to ride a bike? The first time you did any public speaking? How about learning to parallel park or play the piano?

We all start out messy and get better with practice and perseverance.

Now the hard part.

What in your marriage is awkward or shaky? No, it’s not going to feel natural or something that is easy for you to do, but practice and perseverance will help you move toward competence and a sense of ability. The trick is to own that it’s a process and be patient with yourself and your hubby as you learn.

Please don’t give up because it doesn’t feel natural. Hang in there until it does.

Stubbornly persist, and you will find that the limits of your stubbornness go well beyond the stubbornness of your limits.  Robert Brault

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you face and persevere in those difficult places in your marriage.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Questions to Start a Conversation Get to know your man better.

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We are THAT Family: The Small Things That Make or Break A Marriage How do you respond to the little things?

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You go through your day. You eat. You shower. You do your day’s work. You do laundry. You sleep. Then you get up and do it again the next day. You can’t do something once (say, take a shower) and then consider you are done for life. For most things there is an ongoing need.

This is true of growing your marriage as well. You need constant input. It doesn’t have to be a lot, but it needs to be ongoing because you need to be reminded, encouraged and taught. Our marriages are constantly buffeted and we are changing as an individual and in our marriage relationship. The day in day out influence of words through blogs and books helps keep us healthy and on track.

I don’t have any specific word of wisdom, just a reminder that you need ongoing input where your marriage is concerned and blogs and books are two easy ways to get that.

I link to good blogs most every day and I have a Marriage Book Library with good books in it. (I am hoping to update it this next month in time for Christmas. There have been a whole slew of new books out that are exceptional.) 

Learning is not attained by chance, it must be sought for with ardor and attended to with diligence.  Abigail Adams

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find those books and blogs that will really teach and encourage you.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: But I Still Can’t Orgasm! What Next? Practical help for those who struggle.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: What a Husband Needs: A Heartfelt Thank You Guys need to hear it.

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Recently a friend and I were talking about the way we think.

We’ve been talking through our personal growth processes and we both realized we still have a lot of “bad thinking.” Sometimes that means we listen to old tapes (things others have said to or about us) and sometimes it means we have bad ruts in our thinking (we have go-to grievances).

I see the same thing in marriage relationships too. Folks let what others say about them shape how they do marriage or they live in their go-to grievances.

Don’t let wrong thinking keep you from growing personally or in your marriage relationship. Take the time to listen to your thoughts and words. What do your thoughts/words say? Is it truth? If not what could you be thinking/saying?

You and I are not what we eat; we are what we think. Walter Anderson

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to nudge you when you have “bad thinking” and help you learn and live out the truth instead.

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Rage Against the Minivan: On not “firepitting” our marriage (or our children) Love, love, love this post. Your marriage is worth the effort!

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The Generous Husband: Have You Fallen for the One Pie Lie? The pie is not finite. There is more to go around.

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Leave a Trail

October 27, 2014

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

A romantic twist to any time you plan to be with your sweetie is the use of a “trail.” 

By this I mean to leave a trail of items or clues to get your husband from where he is to where he needs to be. You can leave a trail of items (flower petals, Hershey’s kisses, or paper cut out shapes like hearts) or a ribbon (yarn, string) to follow. You could also leave a series of clues. If you wanted to, you could use the clues to help him gather up items that he will need when he “arrives.”

Trails can lead to the bedroom, the dinner table, the couch (for movie night) or an outfit laid out on the bed (where he can dress and be whisked away to a special event). Tuck the “trail” idea in the back of your head and use it when you have the opportunity. (There are definite holiday uses, I’m thinkin’.)

One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure.  William Feather

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you to make time for a little creative fun with your husband.

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Becoming Minimalist: The Latte Factor: 8 Ways We Often Overspend Find those little leaks in your spending.

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Here are more folks who have taken on the CMBA challenge ~ marriage wisdom from family, the Bible or friends.

The Forgiven Wife: The Wisdom of Friends
The Romantic Vineyard: Words From Friends Part Two – Wise Indeed!
Becoming His Eve: The Best Marriage Advice I Ever Received

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How do you best approach God?

A quiet walk in the woods?
Curling up with your Bible?
Singing your heart out at church?
Serving at the homeless shelter (or wherever)?

Be sure to make time in your life for your best way. Encourage your husband to find his best way too.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  Matthew 22:37  NIV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you make time for Him.

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Do check out Becoming His Eve’s Apple of My Eye Date Night (you guessed it, an apple-themed date night). It’s a cute idea and there are some lovely takeaways.

1) Notice the special invitation, dressing for him, and the play toward the senses (food, lighting, music, lotion rub). These can be used in any number of date night ideas.

2) Perhaps apples don’t do it for you. Not a problem. Take the concept of a theme woven through a date night and pick something you and your husband love (chocolate does it for me).

3) Don’t feel like you have to do it all. Take one part of the date night idea and have fun.

4) Hannah is going all out in November with her 30 Dates in November Challenge. Certainly take the challenge (we all need to stretch and grow), but you’ll also gather a ton of date night ideas that can be used all year long.

Thanks, Hannah, for sharing your creativity and helping us romance our man.

Surely the apple is the noblest of fruits. Henry David Thoreau

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God if taking Hannah’s challenge is right for you. Ask Him to help you carve out time for planning a little romance.

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Happy Home Fairy: One Christian Mom’s Thoughts on Halloween Gracious post about a difficult holiday season.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Lies We Believe About Men: All Men Are Perverts and Lies We Believe About Men: Men Only Want One Thing. This is the start of a series. Good content.

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