You have 24 hours in each day.

What people and things are important to you? Be sure you make time for those first and learn to say no to less important things.

Kill the Busy Monster

Our culture pulls us into too much busyness which in turn is trashing our marriages and other relationships.

Look at your plans for next week. What is very important (it stays on the calendar)? What could be cancelled (put a line through it) or postponed/delegated (make a note so you’ll remember later)?

Beware the barrenness of a busy life.  Socrates

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you sort out your priorities and say “yes” and “no” appropriately.

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Becoming Minimalist: Compliments are Free It just takes a moment to bless someone.

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Happy Home Fairy: Fun Ways to Text Your Husband For a bit of spice.

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This week I must have said “good girls don’t like sex” like a bazillion times (several discussion groups). In each group we landed on the topic of bad sexual messages and that’s the first one that popped into my head. Apparently that’s at the top of most folks’ lists because I was surrounded by bobble heads, everyone nodding agreement.

Well, it’s time we debunked the lie.

Good Girls Like Sex

God made us sexual beings and He made it so that sex feels good. I figure He is the creator and He gets to set the standard.

Then He gave us a safe, warm relationship with a hunky husband and said “Go for it!”

I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love.  Song of Songs  5:1 NIV

That last part is God talking.

Our culture has a number of messages geared to keep us from liking sex (sex is dirty so good girls shouldn’t want it, sex is for guys) and we either don’t expect to like it or fear we might like it and ignore our arousal. And life gives us plenty of opportunity to damage our ability to engage in good sex with our husband (when we are wounded, make mistakes, or sin, sex becomes shameful or hurtful which colors our ability to enjoy sex and we don’t like it).

As believers we need to give God the chance to talk us back into truth, to heal our wounds, and help us open up to engage sexually with our spouse. This is typically a process of learning and healing. Soak up the Word, read from marriage and sex friendly resources, and hang with friends who are on the same journey of living His truth.

Here are some helpful resources.

Forgiven Wife – learning to dance with desire
Hot, Holy & Humorous – Sex & Marriage, by God’s Design
Intimacy in Marriage – Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy
Bonny’s OysterBed7 – Helping Low-Libido Wives
Marriage Book Library | Married Sexuality & Sexual Issues – a collection of good books

Ladies, please believe God and agree with His truth. Good girls like sex.

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband enjoy His good gift of sex.

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The Generous Husband: Grown-up and Loving It! Have fun with your hubby man!

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The Art of Simple: The truth about hospitality Make room in your heart.

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WHERE WILL IT END?
(originally posted April 20, 2013)

I was mutzing around on Pinterest and came across a math scavenger hunt for kids using post it notes. Ever on the look out for romantic ideas, I thought the idea might be usable for romancing your man.

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Why not leave a starting post it note (where he will find it) with a clue … that leads to another post it note and clue … that leads to another … that eventually leads to something he would enjoy.

That might be dinner on the patio (his favorite meal served under romantic lighting), you waiting for him in bed (dressed in something you know he loves), or a gift (perhaps something he wants that he recently mentioned).

Gotta love post its.

Pleasured equally in seeking as in finding …  Langston Huges

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for creative ideas that will bless your husband.

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Journey to Surrender: Expectations in Marriage: Consider the Source A list of the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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The Forgiven Wife: The De-Cluttered Marriage Bed Must read. A sweet story of struggle to blessing.

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Words have power.

 Use Your Power for Good

Certain words have more impact with your spouse. You can build him up in very special ways or you can make him bleed. You know what makes him tick, what words have historical meaning, and you have a voice that moves straight to his heart (he loves you and your opinion of him carries more weight).

Use this power for good. Let your words build up, encourage, and heal.

Kind words do not cost much. They never blister the tongue or lips. They make other people good-natured. They also produce their own image on men’s souls, and a beautiful image it is.  Blaise Pascal

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you think before you speak.

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The Confident Mom: My Favorite Self-Care Practices Right Now What do you do to baby yourself?

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Bonny’s OysterBed7: Is God Calling You to a Land of Sexual Intention? Trust in God’s promises.

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I used to take life soooo seriously. I was probably not much fun to be around.

Then I married Paul and learned to laugh, be silly, and enjoy life. Turns out laughter is good medicine and it’s a healthy thing not to take yourself too seriously (we are loved and covered by His grace, which is good because some days we are sillier than others).

Laugh a Little (or a Lot)

Here we are not taking ourselves too seriously at the Grand Ole Opry Hotel. We have a friend who works there and gave us the tour (thanks, Leah!). It’s an amazing place complete with indoor boat tour.

Grand Ole Opry Hotel

Grand Ole Opry Hotel

Look for opportunities to play and laugh (even if you look a bit silly in the process).

Mirth is God’s medicine. Everybody ought to bathe in it.  Henry Ward Beecher

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find laughter in your life.

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The XY Code: Pointless Arguments Dealing with differences in memory.

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Intimacy in Marriage: This is Why I Have Sex Because … oh, yeah, the dog puke.

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Your Way Day

April 25, 2016

in the generous life

The other day I declared it a “your way” day for Paul.

Your Way Day

I thought he needed a little pampering so I told him we could do what he wanted to do for the day. We could eat when and wherever he wanted. Go for a walk, make love, play a game, whatever.

Not a bad way to spoil your man.

Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you find ways to nurture the heart of your husband.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Do you admire your spouse? Pick the orange candy!

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Michael Hyatt: How to Become Your Spouse’s Best Friend Be the change.

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Honor Marriage

April 24, 2016

in the generous life

As you look at the next couple of months, what can you do to plan some time together for you and your husband?

Yes, you want to have fun with your friends, swing by and see extended family, take the kids to the zoo, and such. But don’t let the business of life steal the breath from your marriage.

Honor Marriage

You and your husband need time for each other. Just the two of you.

Make plans.

The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.  Audrey Hepburn

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband make regular time just for the two of you.

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