This Week’s Marriage Challenge: Every day this week,
look for something beautiful to share with your husband.
This post from the Generous Wife archive is three years old. It’s sort of a sad anniversary post for me because it involved a loss, but at three years out, I’m beginning to see God’s hand in the story.
I had a weekend of extreme ups and downs. [shaking head] It sort of put me through the emotional wringer. I went to a local Lavender Festival with my husband and wandered around looking at all the cool arts and crafts (I love spending time with him, I bought lavender plants and dried lavender to make sachets). We shared a piece of Huckleberry cheese cake (yum). Then we met for the day with friends who were camping. The drive was spectacular and the camp ground was great. (They even had toilets! Toilets are very important.)
I got the call that a friend of mine had lost her husband and son in a plane crash. You hardly know what to think in moments like that. Your heart goes out to those who grieve, but it all doesn’t seem real.
My husband and I took a wrong turn on the way home. We spent the better part of an hour driving up and down the roughest forest service roads I’d ever been on (sheer drops along one side of the road, no guard rails, downed branches, large rocks, deep ruts … I told my husband that Jesus was surely asleep in the back of our car, Mark 4:38).
My world had narrowed to a rutted road in the headlights. It felt like it would never end. On top of the news about my friend, I felt pretty lost, both physically and emotionally. But God … was there.
I don’t know how many times it says but God in the Bible. It’s in the thousands, which thousand depends on who you talk to or what version you read, but it’s there a bunch of times. Those words usually appear at a point of difficulty or danger. It usually reveals some huge contrast. The enemy means to do some harm, but God will work something good in it. God swoops in and does His God thing. Sometimes we don’t understand it (when it’s hard or scary), but we can trust Him because over the long haul we can see His hand in our lives and we know how deeply He loves us.
So … (obviously) we made it home safely. I will enjoy the lavender blossoms and remember my day with my husband fondly. One day I might even brave the forest service roads to go camping again (maybe). I will walk with and grieve with my friend, and I will watch for that but God moment when I see His handiwork and know that He is good.
You can look for those moments in your life too.
From my favorite Bible story: You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. Gen 50:20 NIV
Today: My friend is doing well. I watched her lean into Him for strength and balance. Her family and friends gathered ’round to walk with her and she is finding her way. Her daughter is growing like a weed and doing well with so many to love and encourage them. And, surprisingly, my friend is finding a love of learning and teaching. I’m sure there will be many more chapters to this story, but God is clearly working good in her life.
I think we all need to be reminded of how fragile life is and how we need to enjoy the time we have with the ones we love. It’s important to stay current with “I love you’s” and “I’m sorry’s.” Don’t let the passing days fool you into thinking that you have endless opportunities to bless your sweetie. Today is the moment we have. Put it to good use.
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you hold on during those difficult times knowing He is there and working it toward eventual good.
The Generous Wife: Being Generous to the End As a response to my friends loss, I wrote this how-to article on keeping your papers in order and making them spouse friendly.
Fierce Marriage: 5 Phrases Wives Can Say to Deeply Encourage Their Husbands We all need words to lift us up.
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