Two for One

July 5, 2015

in the generous life

Can you list a few things that trouble you about your marriage?

May I suggest a challenge? For every problem you list, find two things that are good about your husband or your marriage.

Yes, deal with the problems, but allow yourself to focus more on the good than the bad.

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.  Winston Churchill

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you build a large list of husband and marriage positives.

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Fundraiser ending July 17th: We’ve made 78% of our $15,000 goal. Total donors 282. Thanks, y’all, for your generous support. Paul and I are working toward traveling full time in an RV doing small seminars and meeting folks around the country. We’re asking our readers to Send Us Out with a Cup of Coffee (your $2 to $5 donations can make a difference!). You can follow the adventure on The Generous Journey.

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Lovely

July 4, 2015

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The next time you are in a department store, check out the fragrances.

Buy a scent you like that you think hubby might like as well.

The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.  Song of Songs 4:11b  NIV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see yourself as feminine and lovely.

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(in)courage: What Are You Missing I need to pay more attention to those care packages from God.

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The XY Code: What Sexual Generosity Means to a Man Being sexually generous can change a heart, can change a life, can change a marriage.

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From The Generous Wife archive:

Life has a way of shaping our perspectives and that colors how we see our husbands (like colored glasses). We color what they say or do with our understanding of who we believe them to be.

That’s pretty normal, but we need to be careful not to color them wrongly or keep them so tied to our perspectives that there is no room for change.

Here are a few phrases I’ve heard over the years.

He’ll never amount to much.
My husband will take care of that.
All he wants is sex.
He never listens to me.
The best men are like my father.

Some of the lenses may seem a little good, but be careful because they may play out poorly in real life (your husband can be a really great guy even if he is nothing like your father).

The clearly destructive lenses are … well, destructive. They cause us to push our sweeties into a box that is not theirs (he really does want you for more than sex). And when the lenses are true, even then we may need to set them down and free our spouses to change (he can learn to listen).

What thoughts run through your head when you think about your husband? Have any of these thoughts become lenses that color how you see your husband? Do you need to set any of them down?

Do not expect the world (or husbands!) to look bright, if you habitually wear gray-brown glasses.  Charles William Eliot (parenthesis mine)

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you see your husband the way He sees him.

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The Generous Husband: Discuss Actions, Not Character Something to discuss with hubby.

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Love Hope Adventure: How to Develop a Bedroom Language And Why You Should Just one more kind of intimacy for husband and wife.

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You know how most libraries have story hour? Usually it’s for the kiddos, but there are book groups for adults as well.

Why not create a story time of your own for you and hubby once or twice a week? Take turns reading or let the the most comfortable reader run with it. Read fiction or non-fiction about something that interests you both.

A book is a device to ignite the imagination.  Alan Bennett

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband find interesting books to share.

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howsyourlovelife: Get Off the Monkey Bars Toss busyness and be engaged in the present.

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The XY Code: Get A Joint Hobby Most men are more comfortable talking while doing something.

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Many Thanks

July 1, 2015

in the generous life

For the past few months, Paul and I have been running a fundraiser to help us get on the road traveling the US in an RV.

We were given a fifth wheel and a friend helped us get a very good deal on a truck. Since then we have been working on them both getting them road worthy and setting up house.

This is a picture of us when we picked up the fifth wheel. We have used the funds to fix and build this new home. We bought a new awning, built drawers in the bed frame, and made a standing desk unit where our computers live. Paul has spent hours on top of and under the RV going over all the household systems. The truck has been cared for and given new tires (the old ones were a bit scary).

We have the very basics for what we need and will be able to make our deadline for heading out September 20th (though we hope to take a couple of small trips over the summer to practice a bit).

Y’all have given generously and I wanted to take a moment to thank you for your donations, prayers, and encouraging words (I love all the little notes that came with the donations). I hope to meet many of you over coffee as we travel (though I could be talked into tea with chocolate cake).

We will be ending our fundraiser on July 17th. If you’d like to help us finish up our wish list, please click here for giving info. We will post our travel route on The Generous Journey.

Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; for his steadfast love endures forever!  1 Chronicles 16:34  ESV

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Prayer Prompt Please pray for Paul and me as we set out on our God adventure.

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Journey to Surrender: Faith, Hope & Love Part 5 – The Greatest is Love Build a marriage that sustains love.

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Intimacy in Marriage: Are Friends Destroying Sex in Your Marriage? Marriage positive friends are a blessing.

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WHAT I’M READING:

Zen to Done by Leo Babauta
I’m a fan of David Allen’s book Getting Things Done. Babauta’s book is an interesting reworking of Allen’s system (a couple of other systems and a few ideas of his own) for organizing your work load. It certainly makes for a simpler and more focused day. Definitely worth the read.
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The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
I had seen this book recommended by a number of other bloggers and as I am slimming down my possessions for RV life, I took a chance on it. The author does share from her Shinto faith, but all in all it is a very encouraging book that helps you keep and organize the things you value.
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Romans 14 by Paul and the Holy Spirit smile
I’ve been reading Romans 14 in the Message version and letting it soak in. We are called to love.

WHAT I’M PINNING:

 KISS pies (would be a sweet romantic gesture)
 cool solar lamp idea for your outdoor areas
 simple refashion of a Tshirt
 I’ve got to try these crafty marshmallows
 I’m going to make some of these easy window valances 

WHAT I’M TWEETING: (a few tweets that got a higher response)

♥ Be patient with yourself when you make mistakes. It takes practice and effort to grow as a wife.

 Know your husband’s triggers (words that hurt or make him uncomfortable). Give thought to your words before they leave your lips.

♥ A long sensuous kiss doesn’t take a lot of planning, just a bit of privacy.

 Finances are typically a battle ground in most marriages. Win the battle by attending an FPU class. bit.ly/w4Yx74

 While temptation is unavoidable, sin is a choice. Take steps to guard your heart.

WHAT I’M DRAWING:

It’s been a busy month and I haven’t made much time for tangling, but I still managed to create a few new favorites. 

  

WHAT I’M WORKING ON:

Paul and I are about 98% in the RV (a few more things to move in), so while we are still working on our new home, we are shifting our focus a bit to help fix up our old home for the new owners. It’s lovely to be turning our home over to friends of ours that will make new memories where our old memories play.

WHAT I’M THINKING ABOUT:

My husband, Paul, preached a sermon last Sunday using this verse:

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.  John 13:34-35  ESV

Can you imagine having someone look at you and say, “you must be a Christian because you are so loving.” We’re talking about an expression of love in our lives so radical that folks take notice and conclude it is our relationship with God that makes us so unique.

I want to be known for how I love those around me.

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to make you more like Jesus.

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Encourage Your Spouse: The Value of Respect in Marriage Both husbands and wives could use a little respect.

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Flirt

June 29, 2015

in the generous life

When was the last time you flirted with your husband?

a pat on the bum
a sexy whisper
 a soft kiss as you pass in the hall
 that look that says “soon”
 an extra button undone on your shirt/blouse

He needs to know he still has what you want.

Don’t ever stop dating your wife and don’t ever stop flirting with your husband.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you grow in your ability to flirt.

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The Forgiven Wife: Intimacy Chat: The Sex-Positive Wife Gals, what a great way to help each other out.

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Unveiled Wife: The Zero Privacy Policy In Marriage: Do You Have It? Put this smart safeguard in place!

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