We have raspberry bushes … lots of raspberry bushes. We have bags and bags of raspberries in the freezer (the good news), but raspberry bushes are known for sending up numerous shoots and making a lot of work if you want to keep your garden neat and tidy (the challenging news).

Sort of like life and marriage. Obligations, opportunities and whatnot spring up everywhere. It takes thoughtful work to keep your life and marriage on track.

Enjoy the good, stay aware of the challenge of staying focused on the important stuff. Do you have too much going on? What’s really important? Practice saying “yes” and “no”. Use appropriately to keep your life/marriage garden neat and functional.

In every single thing you do, you are choosing a direction. Dr. Kathleen Hall

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Prayer Prompt Pray for the courage to say “no” when you need to and for the wisdom to say “yes” when it’s important.

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Fierce Marriage: Is Social Media Causing Sin In Your Marriage? A balanced perspective and some great questions.

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The Forgiven Wife: How Do You Eat an Elephant? Facing the hard work of change.

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Try a Picture

September 1, 2014

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When you’re struggling to communicate with your husband, try to create a word picture to explain your thoughts.

Is your husband into soccer? Can you explain your thoughts using the game as a framework for his understanding?

Does he love gardening or fixing cars or jogging? Think of the different parts of his life and see if you can come up with a word picture that he can identify with that will help you explain your thoughts and perspectives.

A picture is worth a thousand words.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you grow your communication skills.

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Marriage Gems: Think of your sweetie, and boost your mood A positive impact on your body chemistry.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: 3 More Great Bible Stories about Sex More stories that teach us something important about God’s gift of sexuality to marriage.

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Little Reminder

August 31, 2014

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I don’t know about y’all, but sometimes I forget to pray. I whine and worry. I feel pretty stupid when I realize I’ve just spent half the day worrying instead of talking to God, asking for His help or for wisdom on what to do.

I finally figured out that “reminders” help, little items that remind me to pray. I make my bed each morning, so I use my husband’s pillows to remind me to pray for him.

A post-it note on your computer, a coffee cup with a bible verse or a prayer journal on your nightstand could work too.

Pick something that you do everyday and use it as a reminder to pray … for your husband, your marriage, the pressures of your day, etc.

(wo)Men more frequently require to be reminded than informed.  Samuel Johnson (parenthesis mine)

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you practical ways to remember to pray (instead of worry).

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Darby Dugger: I Have Trouble Praying for My Husband. Take the 30 day prayer challenge!

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As you move into a new season (that can be a time of year season or a situational season), what does your husband need?

a new coat for the winter?
a nicer briefcase for a new job?
earbuds for music for his new fitness workout?

Things change. Gift him according to his changing needs.

Change always comes bearing gifts. Price Pritchett

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you become more aware of your husband’s changing needs.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: 4 Great Bible Stories about Sex What a great perspective.

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Marriage Gems: Feeling hangry? Snacking may protect your marriage. True. True. True.

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I ran across this talk on Storyline. I am so not an audio person, but I took a chance on her because I knew a little bit about her and I was curious. Her talk held me transfixed (all 18 minutes of it). The speaker said things that spoke to my heart and my hopes. I encourage you to take the time to listen to it (just in case she manages to speak to your heart and hopes too).

You may or may not agree with some of her theology. That’s OK. Please look past that and hear her message. (If you have trouble viewing it here, click on this link - YouTube: What My Mother Taught Me)

Everyone of us has been created by the hands of a holy God on purpose and for a purpose. Shauna Niequist

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you who He designed you and your husband to be. (Be there for each other.)

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Holley Gerth: 7 Ways You Can Love an Introvert This would be a great article to read and discuss with your spouse.

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Create a date night around favorites.

You could pick his favorites to bless him with a special evening or you could take turns with his/your favorites for a fun mix.

favorite movie
favorite restaurant (or meal at home)
favorite mode of travel
favorite room in the house
favorite clothes
favorite snacks
favorite activities

Make it an evening of special fun.

Women have a favorite room, men a favorite chair.  Bernard Williams

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for creativity and the ability/desire to play.

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The Generous Husband: I’m Older Than My Father My husband … the time traveler.  ;)  (Actually the post is about my father-in-law’s legacy. Very poignant.)

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The Forgiven Wife: The Enemy of Marriage: Pointing Fingers “One flesh cannot stand on two opposite sides of a line.” Stop playing the blame game.

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Bad News

August 27, 2014

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It’s tough facing bad news.

Sometimes it’s someone’s fault. Sometimes it’s a case of “life happens.”

Either way, try to be gracious and practical about dealing with the fallout (and, please, don’t play the blame game).

Hugs are good. So are prayers.

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Prayer Prompt Pray for calm, courage and grace to deal with bad news.

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(in)courage: Go Ahead and Grieve It Sometimes we just need permission.

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The XY Code: Will He Ever Be Sexually Satisfied? An analogy and a great recipe!

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