This week I must have said “good girls don’t like sex” like a bazillion times (several discussion groups). In each group we landed on the topic of bad sexual messages and that’s the first one that popped into my head. Apparently that’s at the top of most folks’ lists because I was surrounded by bobble heads, everyone nodding agreement.
Well, it’s time we debunked the lie.
God made us sexual beings and He made it so that sex feels good. I figure He is the creator and He gets to set the standard.
Then He gave us a safe, warm relationship with a hunky husband and said “Go for it!”
I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1 NIV
That last part is God talking.
Our culture has a number of messages geared to keep us from liking sex (sex is dirty so good girls shouldn’t want it, sex is for guys) and we either don’t expect to like it or fear we might like it and ignore our arousal. And life gives us plenty of opportunity to damage our ability to engage in good sex with our husband (when we are wounded, make mistakes, or sin, sex becomes shameful or hurtful which colors our ability to enjoy sex and we don’t like it).
As believers we need to give God the chance to talk us back into truth, to heal our wounds, and help us open up to engage sexually with our spouse. This is typically a process of learning and healing. Soak up the Word, read from marriage and sex friendly resources, and hang with friends who are on the same journey of living His truth.
Here are some helpful resources.
Forgiven Wife – learning to dance with desire
Hot, Holy & Humorous – Sex & Marriage, by God’s Design
Intimacy in Marriage – Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy
Bonny’s OysterBed7 – Helping Low-Libido Wives
Marriage Book Library | Married Sexuality & Sexual Issues – a collection of good books
Ladies, please believe God and agree with His truth. Good girls like sex.
Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to help you and your husband enjoy His good gift of sex.
The Generous Husband: Grown-up and Loving It! Have fun with your hubby man!
The Art of Simple: The truth about hospitality Make room in your heart.
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