Congratulations, Clarinda! 

You were the 12th poster in the Grace is Greater Giveaway and have won a copy of Grace is Greater. (I’ll contact you shortly by email.)

It was very touching to read all the comments and hear the stories of people being kind and gracious.

For those who didn’t win, consider buying a copy and invite your friends to a small group study of the book. Or you could snuggle up with hubby to read and discuss.

Grab a pair of dice and invite your husband to a little play (what happens after that is up to you).

A Roll of the Dice ♥ Invite your husband to a little play (what happens after that is up to you).

You could role the dice and that is the number of times you kiss, the number of minutes a kiss will last, or the number of places on his or her body that needs a little touch. Or you could create a numbered list of bedroom activities. 

The nice things about this kind of play is you can tailor what you do to your comfort zone (though it’s OK to push the edge a little bit).

(Not sure where healthy boundaries are in the bedroom? Read What’s OK, What’s Not?)

It is a happy talent to know how to play.  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Prayer Prompt Ask God to help you and your husband find ways to be playful in the bedroom.

This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

Beating 50 Percent: How To Stop Fighting About Money and Start Fighting For It Interesting idea.

Gary Thomas: How to Know if You are Cherishing Your Spouse I love his definition of cherish.

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Look at the stressors in your life and/or marriage.

Pick one (just one).

Solve the Stressors - Ask your husband to brainstorm solutions with you. Baby steps work best.

Are your mornings routinely chaotic? Are your finances troubling? Is your cat being a nuisance (we always blame the cat at our house, even though we don’t actually have one at the moment)?

Ask your husband to brainstorm solutions with you. Baby steps work best. If you find yourself overwhelmed with the solution, break it down into smaller bits.

Repeat as necessary.

Baby steps can be taken at any age.  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you focus on one problem until you fix it.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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Confessions of a Terrible Husband: 3 Ways to Kickstart Your Stale Marriage Great thoughts and a challenge!

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The Romantic Vineyard: Paying Attention To The Nudges Look for opportunities to bless your man.

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HANG IN THERE
(originally posted March 25, 2014)

The last few days my quiet time with God has been drier than saw dust. The heavens are brass and distractions rule.

Hang in There - Keep investing in your marriage.

It’s a bother, but I know it will pass. I’ll keep on taking the time to pray, read and just hang out with Jesus. Life will go on and we’ll connect again. It’s a matter of staying constant and giving everything a chance to move back into place.

Sometimes that happens with my husband too. Our time together seems less intimate. We don’t hear each other as well and life seems to run over us.

It’s a bother, but I know it will pass. I’ll keep on making time to talk with him and just hang out with him. Life will go on and we’ll connect again. It’s a matter of staying constant and giving everything a chance to move back into place.

We all have moments when our marriage shifts out of place. We don’t feel as close, we have a series of misunderstandings, or the things we normal cherish annoy the snot out of us. Just hang in there and keep investing. Persevere in the process of reconnecting.

Perseverance, secret of all triumphs. Victor Hugo

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you stay constant in reaching out to your husband.

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This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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Simple Families: How to Declutter the Toys ‘Cause it’s one more way to take some friction out of life.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: 10 Questions to Ask about Your (Mature) Sex Life More questions!

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A few days ago I encouraged y’all to take care of yourselves.

Please consider extending that to your husband as well (and family if you have kiddos). You can’t make choices for him, but you can make it easier for him to make healthy choices.

Share the Health - Model healthy living and invite him to join you.

If you put a bowl of fruit on the kitchen counter, he is more likely to pick up a piece of fruit. If you go for a walk in the evening, invite him to join you or, perhaps, your example simply says that exercise is important. Make a point of going to bed at a reasonable time. When you make a dental appointment for yourself, ask him if he needs one.

Model healthy living and invite him to join you. Remember he is an adult, so treat his choices respectfully (even if they are not the choices you would make).

Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.  Jim Rohn

Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband make wise health choices.

This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

The Forgiven Wife: 10 Questions (for a Husband Who Doesn’t Like Questions)  More questions! What’s not to like?

The XY Code: Be The One to Open The Door Do it for your marriage.

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Amazon affiliate link: Grace is GreaterI enjoy Kyle Idleman as an author. He’s funny and insightful. Anytime I turn a page and see a footnote I know I’m headed for a belly laugh.*

I was delighted to receive a copy of his new book Grace is Greater, especially as “grace” is one of my words for 2017.

Idleman walks you through the heart work that comes with receiving and offering grace. Full of amazing stories and wonderful analogies, I had a hard time putting it down. I was a good deal lighter and more in love with Jesus when I finished the book.

I’ve added Grace is Greater to my “read every year” list of books. I need the reminder.

I encourage y’all to pick up a copy (and then loan it to your friends). I think it would make a great read-and-discuss book for small groups as well.

I’ve been offered an extra copy, so it’s time for a giveaway.

Please share, as a comment to this post, a time when someone was gracious and kind toward you. On Friday, March 24th, I’ll pick a random number and the poster in that spot will win a copy of Grace is Greater.

Grace is powerful enough to erase your guilt.
Grace is big enough to cover your shame.
Grace is real enough to heal your relationships.
Grace is strong enough to hold you up when you’re weak.
Grace is sweet enough to cure your bitterness.
Grace is satisfying enough to deal with your disappointment.
Grace is beautiful enough to redeem your brokenness.
Grace explained is necessary, but grace experienced is essential. 
Kyle Idleman

* Sorry, I’m not nearly as funny as Idleman, but I had to add a footnote in his honor.  :)

Prayer Prompt Spend a little time thanking God for all the good in your life. 

This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

Hot, Holy & Humorous: When You Don’t Know What to Pray for Your Marriage Personalize scripture when you pray.

The Generous Husband: Penis Problems and Solutions “It’s estimated half of the men between 40 and 70 experience some level of ED at least some of the time.” There are helps and solutions.

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What areas of your marriage work well?

Are you both on the same team financially? Maybe you’re the best of friends or you divvy up household chores well.

Be aware of the goodwill those things bring to your relationship.

Let Goodwill Influence Your Struggles

Use those feel-good feelings as a filter when looking at areas where you and your husband struggle. Sure you have tough challenges to face, but the fact you can work together well in some areas means you can learn to work together in those struggle areas too. Acknowledge the reality it will take time and effort, but it can be done.

Let the good in your marriage influence how you look at and deal with your marriage struggles.

The nice thing about teamwork is that you always have others on your side. Margaret Carty

Prayer Prompt  Ask God to show you and your husband how to team up, enjoy the good, and graciously work on your struggles.

This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

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Paul, my sweetie, gave his Generous Husband readership 10 Question for Oldyweds and then challenged others bloggers from the CMBA to do the same.

10 Questions for AnyTime-Weds

I am a lover of questions so I had to take up the challenge (but I can’t just limit myself to oldy-weds, so these are for anytime-weds).

Ask these questions of your sweetie.

 What is your favorite memory of us?
 What one achievement are you most proud of?
 What would be the perfect vacation?
 What one small thing can I do to make your life better/easier?
 What would you like to save for?
 What are you currently struggling with?
 How can I pray for you?
 Is there someone who needs help that we could help?
 Where do we need to cut back or simplify?
 What’s been on your mind a lot lately?
What personal or couple dreams have died? (Do we need to revive them or find new ones?)

OK, so that was 11 questions (I snuck one in there). I did mention I love questions.

Ask the occasional question over dinner or spend the afternoon in a private place going through them. Listen and learn.

Who questions much, shall learn much.  Francis Bacon

Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you and your husband share deeply from your hearts.

This Month’s Marriage Challenge Look for new or interesting things to share in conversation with your husband.

The Forgiven Wife: How Does He React When He Heart “No”? Respond with compassion and understanding to take away some of the sting.

To Love, Honor and Vacuum: How I Understand Submission in Marriage A gracious discussion of women seeking truth.

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