Pick Up and Go

April 24, 2014

in the generous life

The Unclutterer recently had a post about Go-bags (bags with items that are ready to go at a moment’s notice). A number of professions use this idea, but the author uses them for her family (swimming bags, sports activities, travel bags, etc.).

I thought this would be a great idea for couples too.

Tuck a picnic go-bag in your car or create a photo opp go-bag (for those surprise opportunities with the grandkids or a spur of the moment trip to a scenic place). Create a go-bag for whatever you like to do with your sweetie. When you have free time, grab your go-bag and go have fun!

Be prepared. Boy Scouts of America

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: The 4 Kinds of Talk We Need in Marriage I want to have the kind of marriage that makes my kids want to get married.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Is Depression Impacting Your Sexual Intimacy? Practical suggestions for dealing with the effects of depression.

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We are THAT Family: A Simple Way to Teach Family a Lesson About Complaining Less Yup. A wake up call.

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Running Interference

April 23, 2014

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I was trying to write when Widget, my dog, decided it was time to play. He jumped up on the bed, nudged me, “talked at me” (Rhodesian Ridgebacks are very vocal), and dropped his bone next to me (“Come on mom, play with me!”).

Paul saw my dilemma and grabbed the bone and called him to the other room for a little play time. 

Now Widget is peacefully curled up next to me, content and quiet. It was a lovely gift to have my husband run interference for me.

I’m looking for opportunities to do the same for him. Playful dogs, phone calls, and more can interrupt our days. When Paul is busy, I want to be there to run interference for him too.

The average American worker has fifty interruptions a day, of which seventy percent have nothing to do with work.  W. Edwards Deming

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Love and Respect: Why is Marriage So Hard? How you deal with conflict can make or break your marriage. 

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Marriage Adventures: We Still Do Habits that energize your relationship. (The Kindle version of their book Marriage Adventures is available for 99¢ this week. I’m reading it right now and their story offers a lot of success tips for your marriage.)

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The Art of Simple: The lost art of life pruning What do you need to cut out to have the marriage you dream of?

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When you’re out and about, notice how you treat the salesperson, the receptionist or the librarian.

I’m going to guess you are friendly or at least polite and relatively attentive.

As an exercise, treat your husband the same way. 

How does that feel?
Is there a significant difference in how you address him?
How does he respond?
What have you learned?

Hubbies need attention and care too.

If you really want to give someone a gift… try giving your time and attention.  Author Unknown

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Happy Wives Club: Have You Ever Felt Distant From Your Spouse? Read This! Great post for the question lover.

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Unveiled Wife: Prayer Of The Day – Help Me Respond Gracefully I love the humility of this post.

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Too Darn Happy: How to be happier: be generous Generosity rules!

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Zing

April 21, 2014

in the generous life

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott have been doing a series of posts over at Happy Wives Club. They mentioned recently in 5 Proven Happiness Boosters for Couples that getting out of your usual patterns and doing something new together can be good for your marriage.

If that feels a bit overwhelming (life can be busy), realize you can start small.

Fix a new dish for dinner or try out a new restaurant.
Go to a new class or group at your church fellowship.
Try a new position in the bedroom.
Introduce yourselves to other parents (and hopefully make new friends) at your kid’s soccer match.

Look for ways to add newness without adding more to your days. A little zing is good for your marriage. 

It’s fun doing new things.  Rick Baker

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The Generous Husband: Is He Lord of Our Marriages? Let Christ rule there too.

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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Two to Tango, Two to Change Your Sexual Intimacy Navigating change in the bedroom.

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Share

April 20, 2014

in the generous life

Grab your sweetie (and family, if it seems appropriate) and share about the things you are grateful for.

Jesus made it possible to have a real life and God gives us so many good gifts. (If your husband is an unbeliever, be sensitive to where he is. There are so many things to be grateful for. Share the ones that will bring a smile to his face.)

For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.
  Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Does your husband have photos or other items from his past that are of value to him?

Consider creating a personal memento box for him (and perhaps for each member of your family?).

He can easily look through his precious items, it keeps them safe and cuts clutter.

A total win/win.

Memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.  Kevin Arnold (The Wonder Years)

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Happy Wives Club: Do You Have an Emotionally Generous Marriage? I love, love, love this post. More great stuff from Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Having a Healthy Sex Life After Sexual Abuse Wonderful encouragement for those of us who face painful pasts.

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Becoming Minimalist: Answer Softly. Answer Clearly. The power of a soft word is amazing.

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Say Something

April 18, 2014

in the generous life

After you and your husband make love, say something that speaks of enjoyment or appreciation.

You bless me.
I love the feel of your skin.
Let’s do that again sometime soon.
Kiss me again.

Sometimes a guy just needs to hear you enjoy sex with him.

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.  Proverbs 16:24  ESV

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The Generous Husband: The Bigger Piece of Ham Effect Be the mature one and end the battle.

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Darby Dugger: Being a Praying Wife Change my heart, O Lord.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Saying “I Love You” – What does your spouse need to do? Hmmmmm. Thought provoking.

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