Integrity

July 30, 2014

in the generous life

Recently I was chatting with some gals about integrity (in our lives and our marriages). We shared the good and the bad and how we had come to value folks who actually do what they say they will do.

The discussion nudged me to be more aware of what I say and to follow through in a timely way.

I want my husband to know that he can count on me. I want to have integrity and know that my word is good.

Integrity is what we say, what we do, and what we say we do.  Don Galer

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you follow through on your words.

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Journey to Surrender: Don’t Be That Couple Five lessons drawn from something Scott saw on an airplane. (I’ve been there.)

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(in)courage: God Wants to Know, “How Are You, Really?” We always live with both blessings and brokenness. God understands both.

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One great help for my marriage is a small group of gal friends. Sometimes we meet for coffee and other times we meet to read and discuss books, talk about our lives and pray for each other.

They keep me honest and God focused. They encourage me and make me laugh. They challenge me to grow up in Christ and be a better wife, mom, friend, etc.

May I encourage y’all to make time for this kind of relationship. It’s a great marriage tool (and you get to have girl talk).

Iron sharpens iron, and one (wo)man sharpens another.  Proverbs 27:17  ESV (parenthesis mine)

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God for marriage-friendly woman friends (or thank Him for the ones you have).

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Too Darn Happy: Leave them better than you found them A simple, but extremely profound message.

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One Flesh Marriage: Delete the D Word Take it out of your vocabulary!

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A Challenge

July 28, 2014

in the generous life

This week aim to connect physically with your husband at least 3 times a day (more is better).

Now I’m not just taking sex (though that is certainly a fun choice). It could be catching him in the hall for a long hug or going for a walk and holding hands. Take your time with a kiss or sit next him while watching TV and lean in.

The idea is to fill his touch need and connect physically.

His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me!  Song of Songs 2:6  ESV

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Prayer Prompt  Ask God to help you both enjoy touch and understand each other’s need for touch.

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The XY Code: Why Talking to Him During Sports is a Bad Plan Yup, bad plan.

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Intimacy in Marriage: 5 Ways We’ve Complicated Sex and Marriage “Walking in the direction of healthy patterns takes courage and tenacity.”

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Fairly frequently, I have a gal ask me how to become more generous. One of the simplest places to start is with your words (I said simple, not necessarily easy).

Think through the past few days or weeks and look for those places where you wish you had responded differently. Perhaps you spoke angrily or you interrupted your husband when he was trying to share.

Pick one situation and ask yourself how you would like to respond differently. Maybe even practice a few sentences out loud (when no one is around to hear).  ;)

You may find that you forget it when the same situation arises. That’s OK. Go over it again in your head a few more times and see if you can catch it earlier next time. If you catch yourself acting in a way you don’t want to, stop, apologize and speak out the way you had planned.

Learning this kind of response takes practice. Don’t expect to be perfect right out of the gate. Just keep at it until that response is more natural to you.

Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.  Pearl Strachan

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Prayer Prompt Pray for the ability to be aware in the moment and respond to your husband kindly and respectfully.

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Take Care

July 26, 2014

in the generous life

How is your overall health?

Do you need to take better care of yourself? Your husband loves you and wants to keep you around for awhile.  :)

Get good sleep. Eat healthy. Exercise. See a health professional if you need to (don’t forget your visual and dental health too).

If you don’t take care of your body, where are you going to live?  Author Unknown

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Prayer Prompt Pray for wisdom over health issues (for you and your husband).

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For Better – Or What?: Privacy and Secrecy Very smart perspective for understanding the difference.

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Calm Healthy Sexy: 3 Reasons Not to “Give Your Husband More Sex” Sex is about both of you.

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Congratulations Jill!

You were the 9th poster in our recent contest and have won a copy of  XES by Joy McMillan.

Denise (28th poster) and Vicki (45th poster) were also winners of a selection of homemade cards from a very gifted friend of mine. (Thanks, Beth, for sharing your talents with us.)

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My husband and I were talking about values and preferences and how we make time for what is important to us.

We’ve started paying attention to when we tell ourselves we “don’t have time” for something. The truth is we do have the time, if we will govern our time use to make room for it. The question then becomes how important is it to us and whether or not there is something more important. Where will we put our time? 

Take that concept into marriage and it’s a real wake up call. How important to us is our marriage? How will we choose to use our time? We have a finite amount of time each day. How do we make time for ourselves, our spouse, get our work done, take care of the kids, ad infinitum?

Sounds like time for prayer and introspection. What are our values? What is truly important? How do we make time for that?

Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.  Carl Sandburg

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Prayer Prompt Pray for wisdom over your time use in your marriage relationship.

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Happy Wives Club: 5 Great Marriage Lessons from the Least Likely Place Love this guest post from Kim Hall of Too Darn Happy.

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When was the last time you and your husband showered together?

A little skin on skin is a good thing.

My beloved is mine, and I am his.  Song of Songs 2:16a ESV

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Prayer Prompt  Pray for quiet moments of connection in your marriage.

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The Forgiven Wife: What’s on Your Spreadsheet? Some great reasons to track your sex life.

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Do Not Disturb: The Mid-Summer Marriage Amusement Ride There’s still time to play.

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